Dr. Kelly Turner, author of Radical Remission, discovered that cancer patients who experienced radical remission of cancer had the following factors in common:
1. Radically changing your diet
2. Taking control of your health
3. Following your intuition
4. Using herbs and supplements (under doctor's supervision)
5. Increasing positive emotions
6. Embracing social support
7. Deepening your spiritual connection
8. Having strong reasons for living
Dr. Kelly interviewed numerous cancer survivors and identified more than 75 factors that they used as part of their healing journey. The eight above were listed by nearly all survivors, making them the most significant. (See her book for more information on each factor and her research.)
Whether or not you have cancer, the above factors may be a good way for you to be healthier and happier. Consider writing a list of them and hanging it somewhere you'll see it often (your computer's desktop or screen saver, the bathroom mirror, over the kitchen sink). Then start to notice which areas you need most to work on. And begin to make changes.
For example, #6. In a world increasing dominated by the media, social networking, and technology, some people feel isolated. Family support and friends from younger years often live many miles away. We need to generate our own base of support locally and find ways to reconnect with those who live further away. Finding friends who will support you includes being able to share with people who are safe your struggles, hopes, dreams, problems, and fears. Choose people who won't judge you or solve your problems, but will rather listen to you and support your choices. And be a support system for them as well. Before tragedy strikes you or your family, accept support of friends, be willing to be vulnerable (with safe people), and provide support to those in your community. In so doing you create for yourself a healthier community.
Monday, August 25, 2014
Wednesday, August 13, 2014
Why Did it Happen?
It is normal when something bad happens to wonder why it happened. And why it happened to you in particular. It can be good to analyze the whys. Sometimes through, understanding the whys we come to a greater acceptance of the situation and are able to move on.
But...
and this is a big BUT...
...sometimes there isn't a single why that we can find. Or sometimes even if we understand the why, it doesn't lead to any relief in the feelings (hopelessness, grief, sadness, pain, depression,...).
Most of us believe that if we could just understand what is happening and why, then make changes based on the understand, everything will be better. But that's just not always true. For example, when an accident that hurts or kills someone we love, no amount of understanding/thinking/reconsidering of the event will change that we feel sad (and angry, in pain...). It's normal to go through lots of what-ifs and if-onlys (and it's not wrong to do so), but that process of thinking doesn't make us feel better. When we feel pain and sadness there's a drive to find anything that will make us feel less in pain or sad.* Thinking comes easier than feeling at times like this, and we can sometimes go into over-thinking or ruminating on the same what-ifs and if-onlys incessantly. When ruminating has taken over from thinking, we need to release the need to have logical explanations and move into acceptance of the loss and pain.
"But HOW" you say....
Yes, easier said than done.
It is a daily practice of accepting the now. Accepting does not mean that you are glad this thing happened. Certainly not thinking that you (or anyone) would have chosen this painful now. But accepting it as here now: "I am in pain. I am sad. I can't make it go away, no matter how much thinking I do...." Just noticing, "I'm trying to find an explanation again to make me feel better, but I still feel sad (angry, hurt...)." Paddle past the pain and hurt onto calmer waters of accepting the feeling. Perhaps you wouldn't have chosen to be in this boat. But since you're in it, float, ride, perhaps paddle and move forward.
Try this exercise on releasing thoughts several times each week when ruminating or over-thinking has taken over. And be accepting of yourself as you try it. It takes practice to release obsessive thoughts, so the first time you try it, it will only work part of the time.
Take a deep breath and notice the motion of the breath. Take 5 more deep breaths.
Notice a feeling you find unpleasant.
Notice what body sensations the feeling is causing (tension, hot, restless, lethargic, headache...).
Notice the thought that go with the feeling.
As much as possible observe the thoughts instead of thinking them.
Now accept the feeling. Say to yourself, it makes sense I am _________.
Allow the feeling to express itself.
Say: I'm in pain. I can tolerate this. I don't like it, but it won't kill me.
Continue to accept.
Take several more deep breaths.
On the breath out breathe out pain, tension, and ruminating thoughts.
On the breath in bring in healing, wholeness, acceptance, and (perhaps) peace.
Breathe.
Then notice if you feel any different. Accept the change (or lack of change.)
*Sometimes we go to substances (like alcohol) or other addictions (like computer games) as a way to avoid the pain.
But...
and this is a big BUT...
...sometimes there isn't a single why that we can find. Or sometimes even if we understand the why, it doesn't lead to any relief in the feelings (hopelessness, grief, sadness, pain, depression,...).
Most of us believe that if we could just understand what is happening and why, then make changes based on the understand, everything will be better. But that's just not always true. For example, when an accident that hurts or kills someone we love, no amount of understanding/thinking/reconsidering of the event will change that we feel sad (and angry, in pain...). It's normal to go through lots of what-ifs and if-onlys (and it's not wrong to do so), but that process of thinking doesn't make us feel better. When we feel pain and sadness there's a drive to find anything that will make us feel less in pain or sad.* Thinking comes easier than feeling at times like this, and we can sometimes go into over-thinking or ruminating on the same what-ifs and if-onlys incessantly. When ruminating has taken over from thinking, we need to release the need to have logical explanations and move into acceptance of the loss and pain.
"But HOW" you say....
Yes, easier said than done.
It is a daily practice of accepting the now. Accepting does not mean that you are glad this thing happened. Certainly not thinking that you (or anyone) would have chosen this painful now. But accepting it as here now: "I am in pain. I am sad. I can't make it go away, no matter how much thinking I do...." Just noticing, "I'm trying to find an explanation again to make me feel better, but I still feel sad (angry, hurt...)." Paddle past the pain and hurt onto calmer waters of accepting the feeling. Perhaps you wouldn't have chosen to be in this boat. But since you're in it, float, ride, perhaps paddle and move forward.Try this exercise on releasing thoughts several times each week when ruminating or over-thinking has taken over. And be accepting of yourself as you try it. It takes practice to release obsessive thoughts, so the first time you try it, it will only work part of the time.
Take a deep breath and notice the motion of the breath. Take 5 more deep breaths.
Notice a feeling you find unpleasant.
Notice what body sensations the feeling is causing (tension, hot, restless, lethargic, headache...).
Notice the thought that go with the feeling.
As much as possible observe the thoughts instead of thinking them.
Now accept the feeling. Say to yourself, it makes sense I am _________.
Allow the feeling to express itself.
Say: I'm in pain. I can tolerate this. I don't like it, but it won't kill me.
Continue to accept.
Take several more deep breaths.
On the breath out breathe out pain, tension, and ruminating thoughts.
On the breath in bring in healing, wholeness, acceptance, and (perhaps) peace.
Breathe.
Then notice if you feel any different. Accept the change (or lack of change.)
*Sometimes we go to substances (like alcohol) or other addictions (like computer games) as a way to avoid the pain.
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